People who feel unhappy in their marriages often gripe, “What happened to the romance we had when we were dating?” You can’t stay in love by showing your partner that some days they don’t matter. Marriages fail because caring fails. Caring for one another requires individual effort. It requires knowing your partner as well or better than you know yourself. You need to give your partner what they need, not what you think they need. Men and women can have different definitions of romance. Valentine’s Day is the perfect time for you to explore what romance means to your partner.